“God has given you one face and you make yourself another.”
Compare yourself with others is a self-crime and injustice to yourself. Don’t forget that you are very special and unique in this world. What you can do, nobody can do like you. What you can think, nobody can think like you. What you can act, nobody can act like you. Never underestimate your own caliber and potentials while comparing with others. The moment you stop comparing yourself with others, the very moment you will realize your own virtues and uniqueness.
“It is far better to discharge one’s prescribed duties, even though faultily, than another’s duties perfectly. Destruction in the course of performing one ’s own duty is better than engaging in another ’s duties, for to follow another’s path is dangerous.”
---Bhagwad Gita
The above verse from the Bhagwad Gita guides you to follow:
• Do your work even if you are not perfect or weak or immature.
• Never copy and imitate others.
• Accept your own faults and flaws as your learning experience.
• It doesn’t matter if you fail in your own endeavors while following your own strategy.
• Try to amend your own weaknesses and shortcomings.
• Follow your own paths.
• Build your own road to go ahead.
• But never follow the paths of others.
• Never try to follow the roads of others.
• Never try to live the lives of others.
• You will never match with others; and they will never match with you either.
• It is always dangerous to follow the roads of others, because they are different from you.
Anecdote:
A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swam must be the happiest bird in the world. ”
He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.”
The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”
The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”
What is the true message in this story?
• Never ever compare yourself with anyone.
• Accept yourself the way you are.
• Be happy and content with yourself.
• Change your perspective about yourself.
• Learn to love yourself.
• Never neglect yourself.
• Your life is different from others.
• You are the best creation of Almighty God.
General comparisons:
• He is better than me.
• He is more educated than me.
• He is more talented than me.
• He is more intelligent than me.
• He is stronger than me.
• He is quicker than me.
• He is luckier than me.
• He is healthier than me.
• He is wealthier than me.
• He is happier than me.
• He is more prosperous than me.
• He is more successful than me.
Never allow the above mentioned comparisons to dwell in your mind, heart and soul. These comparisons are the most dangerous enemy of your growth and development in your life. These comparisons will ruin your beautiful life and lead you to the door of never ending traumas of stresses, tensions and anxieties.
Whenever such comparisons hammer in your mind, then ask the below questions to yourself:
• If he is better than me, so what is the big deal? I could become better than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is more educated than me, so what is the big deal? I could become more educated than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is more talented than me, so what is the big deal? I could become more talented than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is stronger than me, so what is the big deal? I could become stronger than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is quicker than me, so what is the big deal? I could become quicker than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is luckier than me, so what is the big deal? I could become luckier than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is healthier than me, so what is the big deal? I could become healthier than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is happier than me, so what is the big deal? I could become happier than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is more prosperous than me, so what is the big deal? I could become more prosperous than him with my sheer perseverance.
• If he is more successful than me, so what is the big deal? I could become more successful than him with my sheer perseverance.
Negative effects of comparison:
• You will start feeling weakness within you.
• You will feel inferior to others.
• You will feel hurt yourself.
• You will feel unlucky.
• You will start doubting yourself.
• You will become confuse and puzzle.
• You will become stressful.
• You will become tense.
• You will start worrying.
• You will lose your self-believe.
• You will lose your self-confidence.
• You will become jealous.
• You will become angry.
• You will become mentally disturb.
How could you overcome your habits of comparison with others?
• Stop comparing yourself with others right now.
• Look within yourself.
• Stay along with positive people.
• Figure out your strong points and weak points.
• Improvise your weak points.
• Polish your own natural talents and skills.
• Believe in yourself.
• Develop your self-confidence.
• Clear your doubts.
• Keep yourself busy with your own work.
Auto-suggestions and Self-affirmations for you:
I’m unique in this world…..
I’m different from everyone…..
I’m very special to myself……
I respect myself…..
What I can do, nobody can do like me…..
What I can think, nobody can think like me….
What I can act, nobody can act like me…….
Repeat the above auto-suggestions and self-affirmation early in the morning, when you wake up, during day time, in the evening and before you go to bed at night.
“Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you do so, you are insulting yourself. ”
---Bill Gates
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