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Self-esteem: Your are not a failure





 

You are not a failure until you allow your mistakes to define what kind of person you are and what is in store for you.

Failure is, when after much persistence and hoping, things not going the way you wanted them to. Or when you saw other people having what you always wanted while you are still struggling to achieve.

The definition of failure is different for all of us. And yet most of us take on the identity of a failure without really knowing what it is all about.
Failure, according to the dictionary, is “ceasing to function, breaking down, non-performance.” And as I have found out our definitions of a “breakdown/non-performance” are not correct. We seem to think that we are a failure when our parents give up on us or when we make the same mistakes again and again or when after a long time it becomes apparent that we are not going to get the job we have always dreamed of or when we are not financially sound in life as we hoped we would be.
These situations are not what make a failure. They may be setbacks, defeats that are to be overcome. A failure is one who gives up completely, loses all hope and allows the setbacks to become a way of life for his/her self.

Human potential is so great that there is no limit where one might reach if it is tapped correctly. In this imperfect world of ours, it is usual that our dreams do not come true as we would want them to, that we will not measure up to people’s standards, that we will not get the perfect job or that we will disappoint our parents.

Then why do we dwell on our defeats as if it is the end of our lives? I literally, used to hang on to my “failures,” until I realised one day that these are our priceless stepping stones towards becoming better individuals, which we must first learn to accept. A series of setbacks or mistakes may leave you feeling like a failure but it does not mean that you are a failure, if you decide to use those defeats to your advantage, as valuable lessons to learn from.

You may fail several times but keep moving ahead. In doing that, you have won half the battle.

                                                                               (Courtesy: Teenager)

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